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G is for Grit - No Grit, No Pearl

“G” is for Grit – No Pearl, No Grit

“G” is for Grit – No Grit, No Pearl

Long ago, I came across the inspiring quote, “a diamond is merely a lump of coal that did well under pressure.” Of course, that’s supposed to make us feel better when we are going through tough times by telling us that we will shine at the other end of the trauma. I came across a different saying for the first time the other day, long after I decided that G would be for Giving Thanks. “No grit, No pearl.” I decided that I liked this saying better than the diamond one because as well as I might handle my challenges, I still don’t like to feel pressured. So we are making “G” about Grit this week.

Grit is hard and disturbing. It gets in your shoes and in your chips and all over your car after a day at the beach, and who do you know that likes grit in their teeth? Grit doesn’t create pressure, it just sticks out like a sore thumb. Grit is problems and aggravations and life altering occurrences.

No matter who you are or when you were born, your life will be full of grit. Not a little bit or a minimal amount, but lots and lots. We were born to head towards the hard stuff so that we can grow.

And to help us get through it, I think it’s important to own our grit. You know those things in life that don’t feel like they should be happening to us, or the things in life that don’t seem fair. We have to fully embrace those things that rub us the wrong way, that disturb our peaceful way of living, that change the course of our lives, because they are going to happen again and again. The sooner we can accept and embrace those things, the sooner we can turn them into a beautiful part of us.

An oyster can’t spit out this gritty grain of sand and we can’t disown our own grit. He has to work with it and begin a long process of turning it into something completely different than what it began as. It actually increases in size instead of shrinking. We have to learn how to walk with our grit, live with it and be with it, while recognizing the beauty that it can add to our lives and the beauty we can add to our lives because of it.

Pick any grit in your life and ask yourself what the silver lining might be. (There’s always at least one.) Focus on the silver lining instead of the irritation of it and then plan how you’re going to grow the silver lining into gold.

We have to begin putting layer upon layer of shine upon the grit until it no longer rubs us in the wrong way. Whether you’re creating pearls, diamonds or gold, you are living life. Note that it all adds up to shining through it. When you find your shine, it's beautiful.

Start turning your grit into shiny iridescent gems. No pressure, though. 🙂

xo Katherine 

Find my previous ABC Blogs here, or below.

"A" is for accepting your present existence
"B" is for be you
"C" is for create
"D" is for do
"E" is for eating and exercising
"F" is for free to choose

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“F” is for Free To Choose – Pandora’s Box

"F" is for Free to Choose

The story of Pandora’s box goes that she opened the box out of curiosity and all sorts of evils of the world escaped. All that was left inside of the box was hope. Let’s pretend for the moment. Let’s say that you’re a worry wart. Pretend that you opened your own Pandora’s Box, and all of your worries flew out until there were no more left. The only thing left in your box was hope that you haven’t used yet. You’ve been making choices based on fear for so long and you've finally let them all go. Your choices from now on are all based on hope.

Cooooolllll. 🙂

So what do you hope for and what choices can you make to make your hopes happen?

You are free to choose how your day will go. My series of blogs for 2016 is about making better choices, and the way your day will go is based a lot on what choices you make as it progresses. Even if you are having the kind of day that you’d much rather be doing something else, you get to choose the way you will experience it.

How will you start your day? How will you end your day?

What will you do through your day? What will be fun throughout your day? What will you make fun throughout your day?

You don’t have to wait and see how it will end, or let it end the same way that it always does. You can change it. Right now you know how your day will go with its’ normal routine. What could you do to change it to make it better or more interesting or more engaging? My days can get pretty boring. They become repetitive. I leave work and do the same things…errands, grocery store, pick up my daughter from school, finish any errands and then go home for HomeworkDinnerLaundryWalkdogBed. Then it’s often repeated exactly the same way the next day. It’s choices that I make during that time that can make it more fun.

How will you cook dinner? Candles, music, with or without little helping hands setting the table for you, or in front of the TV alone with your meal, glass of wine and your favorite show that’s been recorded for weeks. (That was supposed to sound enticing.) 😉

There are weeks at a time that my routine becomes stagnant. That’s my sign to get more creative.

Be global. There is constant change in the world. Make sure that you are changing and renewing like the world does. You’ve opened your Pandora Box and released all of the worries and fears in your minds’ world. Now dig down deep inside of it for the hopes and dreams that have been buried under the fears and act on them by choosing them.

What choice will you make today that will change  and renew you?

Katherine A. Rayne is blogging the ABC's Blog Series of #BetterChoices2016 to encourage you to create a life you love. You can find her previous blogs (A, B, C, D and E) here.

If you have yet to make a bucket list, find her printable form here to start one now.

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