Monthly Archives: June 2016

“S” is for Simplify

Do you love Henry David Thoreau as much as I do? I don’t know him personally, 🙂 but I wish I did. I skim through his quotes and I feel like he was talking to me. He talked about simplifying life as the key. (Take a moment to Google him to look through his quotes. My guess is that you would forget about me.) 

I treasure the idea of simplifying, but I seem to allow my brain to stay on overwhelm, even if I shouldn’t.

When I’m relaxing at home, there's always a few distractions calling out my name to remind me to get them done; the front door calls out my name three different times at bedtime asking me to make sure that it’s locked...just in case. My laundry; even when I’ve finished it for the day, there’s still a delicate or a dark laying in the bottom of the hamper saying,“I know I’m supposed to wait until you have more of us, but I feel dirty. Can you please just send me through the delicate cycle by myself?”

I have such a hard time letting myself rest when I'm at home, and I feel like if I had less, I'd relax more.

After my Mom died, my three sisters and I went through her home and belongings. I went for the books because I wanted to see what pages she had marked and dog-eared, what books were her favorites, what quotes were highlighted and who she had read again and again. I was surprised to find quite a few Henry David Thoreau books because she never mentioned him. She had highlighted one quote from Walden and Other Writings of Henry David Thoreau, and the quote defined my mom to a “T.”

 

“Simplify the outward circumstances – learn to delight in the simple pleasures which the world of nature affords. Also means, scorn public opinion – refuse to accept the common definitions of success – refuse to be moved by the judgement of others.” – Walden and Others Writings of Henry David Thoreau,” edited and with an Introduction by Joseph Wood Krutch.

 

 

She had also written the quote on a slip of paper that she seemed to use as a bookmark. I wondered whether she recognized herself in this quote, or if she strived to be that simplified.

 

She treasured simple things, found wonder in simple pleasures, loved being outside and at the beach, and never cared what people thought of her. She’s the one that taught me to never worry about what people think, and in a separate lesson, do worry about how they feel. Two very different connections to others, and lessons that I carry around with me to this day that I have passed on to my kids.

When I was married, I lived in big homes and had lots of stuff. Now I live in a condo and I still have lots of stuff. It doesn’t compute. But I know when I pare down, I feel better, lighter and happier.

 

“We are happy in proportion to the things we can do without.”

 

Guess who said that.

“S” is for Simplify because life is already hard. If I can find a way to add more simplicity, I'm in.

 

What one thing can you do this week to simplify your life?

Your answer might be different every week, but if you ask yourself that question every Sunday, who knows what things you might accomplish.

My answer this week is that my lanai needs to be simplified, cleaner and cozier. I spend about an hour out there every day now that summer is here. It’s hot but I cherish the quiet of summer so much that I don’t mind the heat. I actually have three orchids blooming out there right now. Normally I don’t even have one. My lanai is calling out my name to come sit down. To be out there enjoying the outside and my surroundings would add simplicity to my life, so I am pledging to create a better lanai by next Sunday, simply put.

I will see you letter! xo

 

"Our life is frittered away by detail... simplify, simplify."  HDT 

 

 

Make Better Choices Today 2016 ~               xo Katherine

 

Katherine is doing an ABC Blog Series for #BetterChoices2016 in order to make 2016 your best year yet. Follow her blog at www.backtobeingawoman.com or get the blogs as soon as they are sent out by signing up for her newsletters.

Find previous ABC Blogs here.

"A" is for accepting your present existence
"B" is for be you
"C" is for create
"D" is for do
"E" is for eating and exercising
"F" is for free to choose
"G" is for grit
"H" is for higher
"I" is for intelligence preservation
"J" is for just dance
"K" is for kick crap to the curb
"L" is for look for the lesson
"M" is for Making Memories Last
"A" - "M" to Better Choices
"N" is for Nurture
"O" is for optimum
"P" is for moms are pack leader
"Q" is for  Quiet your Mind
"R" is for Reorganize

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“R” is for Reorganzing

R is for Reorganizing

I’m not very good at purging, but I love how it feels when I do. I’ve written a whole book on decluttering; decluttering your home, a room, one drawer, your refrigerator and even your mind. The feeling I get from cleaning, organizing, purging and refocusing feels as good as retail therapy to me.

I do a battle with clutter in my home during busy times, especially during the last month or so. My drop spots that become cluttered immediately are the kitchen counter, the foyer and in a corner in my family room. For two months straight, I was running in so many different directions without being able to slow down. One morning while I grabbed a pair of shoes out of the closet when I was on my way out the door yet again, I noticed that my closet had basically become an explosion of shoes. As I was putting them on, a label on one of my small shoe bins caught my eye. It was a label from a time when I was younger and more organized. The label was peeking out from behind the shoe explosion pile. It reads “Lego Manuals.”

When my now 23 year-old son was young, he had Legos galore, and each set came with instructions. Very often the structures would be built, then broken down, and all of the pieces would end up in one bucket swimming with a million other Lego pieces. Anytime he wanted to rebuild one, we’d pull out the Lego manuals so that we would know what pieces were needed. As challenging as the structures were to build, the manuals were always easy to find in their separate little bin. Boy do I miss those days.

As a single-working mom, there’s no going back to that life, but I still like doing the decluttering from time to time to rid myself of the stuff that I don’t need. Hence, "R" is for Reorganizing.

The book I've written was born out of a state of overwhelm and too much stuff in my home. I needed to simplify and get rid of tons of clothes, and yes, shoes. I had clutter piles in every room. So I wrote #Live Simply #Live Elegantly Your Life Journal, in order to journal my way through my home and my head. It worked, so I published my book and I plan to put it to use each summer to reclaim a more organized frame of mind.

I love the feeling I get just by cleaning out and organizing one drawer, so the book multiplies that feeling with each chapter of decluttering and simplifying.

You don't need the book to do it, either. Just start with the room that you are in right now. What can you get rid of? What don't you love? What's been out of place for a long time? What items are just outdated? Use a pair of fresh eyes if you can. What paintings are you not in love with that hang on your wall? When I sit in a room where I love the things surrounding me, it is a more refreshed and focused room for me. Doing one room at a time is all it takes.

Make #BetterChoices2016 today!    Katherine

Are you wanting to declutter your home and mind? Here’s my book. xo

And here's a freebie...here's how I declutter my intestines. If you want to try this, here's my mustard and lemon dressing recipe. xo

"R" is for Roughage

Always check with a health provider for dietary changes.

Katherine is doing an ABC Blog Series for #BetterChoices2016 in order to make 2016 your best year yet. Follow her blog at www.backtobeingawoman.com or get the blogs as soon as they are sent out by signing up for her newsletters.

Find previous ABC Blogs here.

"A" is for accepting your present existence
"B" is for be you
"C" is for create
"D" is for do
"E" is for eating and exercising
"F" is for free to choose
"G" is for grit
"H" is for higher
"I" is for intelligence preservation
"J" is for just dance
"K" is for kick crap to the curb
"L" is for look for the lesson
"M" is for Making Memories Last
"A" - "M" to Better Choices
"N" is for Nurture
"O" is for optimum
"P" is for moms are pack leader  "Q" is for  Quiet your Mind

Get my Newsletter here to keep up with my news and weekly blogs. Share this with friends that could do 2016 with us.

Follow me on Facebook  and  Twitter
Books by Katherine A. Rayne on Amazon.com.
Lost in Thoughts Adult Coloring Book An Adult Coloring Book that interviews you with each illustration.
Back to Being a Woman (Without Changing the Man) Turn relationships into elationships.
#Living Simply #Living Elegantly Your Life Journal Get your head and home in sync.
There's a Light at the End of the Tunnel. You A compilation of my blogs that all women can relate to.
Visit my website at www.backtobeingawoman.com