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Create a new positive

Create the New Positive

Over the years, my blogs have always been based on the hope to help others create a more positive life. By the simple fact of "being" and existing, I know that we can think better, be better, do better, act better and create better, for the simple reason that it is humanly possible. And because change is good.

I like to send out messages about the possibilities of loving and appreciating our lives no matter what situation we find ourselves in, because we always find ourselves in some sort of situation, no matter who we are or what stage of life we are going through. We can create something more positive from it.

I hope to uplift others. By watching the news, there's so much to feel bad about. There really are awful things going on in the world that are beyond our control and imaginations.

These awful things need to be off-set. Off-setting them by doing the most wonderful things in the world gives us balance and keeps the world turning on its axle.

I notice that many people don't always give themselves enough credit. We think we need to be more, do more, care more and have more. But as we are, we need only to remind ourselves to think positively, of ourselves and of others. We have so much going for us, especially in the Western World.

I can get angry watching the news. Each news story that is horrific can instill  anger or sadness into my mind, and then where does that leave me? Instead, I turn it off. Not to be void of the worlds' problems. Not to ignore and plead ignorance to it all. But to keep my positive inflow intact. I sign-up to receive emails from news agencies so that I can keep up with the world, but it's not a visual feed that lingers long in my mind after I've turned off the TV. It's only written words to take in, and I read it only when I want to hear our current events. I can create my own peace over it.

Because of all the negative news and stories that happen each day, balancing it with positive thoughts is important. It's the same reason so many of us go to church or temple regularly; to replenish our minds with positive messages that are needed nutrients to keep us looking forward instead of looking down.

We are in need of more positive actions in the world. Think about all of the things that are not being accomplished, because we aren't creating them. I think this comes out of my feelings of all the tragedies that are occurring that don't have to be happening. Terrorism, violence, pedophilia, even the separation of our society by democracy. I'm going to bring God into this conversation. He knew the awful things that would happen just by putting us here, but he also knew of the good things that would happen, too.

I still think he'd like to grab a few people by the collar and shake them. The awful tragedies going on in the world are not what He was thinking. The brain is an amazing and complex organ. We are all gifted people because we all have that one thing in common. We need to put it to better use. The stories on the news prove how much we are taking it for granted.

We are better than this. I think it starts with the idea that we need to stop worrying about ourselves. We are amazing, just the way we are, no matter what faults we feel we have, or what problems are bringing us down. We need to be more positive, even while acknowledging all the trauma we and the world take on.

It takes a strong mind to come out thinking more positive, but brains don't need weight-lifting to become stronger. Our brain just needs us to redirect our thoughts.

When awful things happen in the world, we can look towards solutions, and not aim our focus on the problems. That can change our whole outlook. Imagine strength in numbers when people are more in sync. It's why we feel good at sporting events and on teams. Everyone is rooting for the same thing.

There's so much negative energy in the world, so offsetting it with our positive energy is vital. While sitting at the table of life, passing the salt isn't working, so let's start passing the sugar. We all love sugar, in huge amounts. That can be our guideline.

Next time you watch the news, do what Fred Rogers' mother used to tell him. Look for the helpers. See what they're doing and focus on them. There's always helpers in any awful situation; helping the wounded, saving the less fortunate or donating funds. Because there is always going to be tragedies and trauma in the world, there will always be helpers and healers, too. When there's something that takes us down, we can turn around and head in the opposition direction.

Next time you feel negativity creeping in, redirect the thought to a positive one. The choices are endless. We need the positives to become loftier and more prevalent than the negatives, and every mind counts.

Grab a pound of sugar on the way out the door each day so you can sprinkle it everywhere.

xo

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W for Wiser

w is for wiser

A wiser week

My week of intent will be about coming out at the end a bit wiser. That gives me a really good excuse to read even more. I love to read, and as entertaining as it is, it can also make me more knowledgeable.

Depending on what I read, I can learn more about any topic in the world, but there's always more vocabulary out there waiting to be learned. I can ask my daughter to use her Spanish II education as we go about our days and I can learn a few more Spanish words.

I can watch a few shows on the Discovery Channel instead of always turning on HGTV. It won't even take much effort. I can just sit back and read, relax or listen.

I think it's a wise decision to become wiser. I've already begun. 🙂

Enjoy your intentions, whatever you choose.

xo

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glass half full

v is for views

Views and perspectives

The views we have on everything from waking up in the morning (I'm NOT very morning-ish), to our opinions on watching the news kind of run our life. We've all heard the saying, the glass is half empty versus half full, but what we can really be saying is the glass is ready for MORE. Fill up my cup to the rim, please! Ready for more, excited for more and looking forward to more lifts my spirits.

Positive thinking is important, of course, but being ready for the next thing and being engaged with life will make your days more intriguing.

So my view for this week will be not looking for more, but ready for more. Creating more of what makes me smile, living up to higher standards that give me a more valuable life.

Doing more for myself that lifts me up...what's not to like? I'm ready for more of that. Do more for the good, more for your health, more for your neighbor.

V doesn't give me many choices of a weekly word, but views is a good one. What MORE do you see coming your way? Enjoy the week with whatever you choose.

xo

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unnecessary

u is for unnecessary

Avoiding the Unnecessary

Unnecessary is my word of intent this week. There's so many ways to spend my time and I want to have the intent to do things that count, versus wasting time or energy on things that don't. Making it count probably has less T.V. in my future (sorry, Chip and Jo), and more doing things of the heart and of matter.

I want to avoid unnecessary spending, trips to the grocery store (unless it's for toilet paper, of course), purchases and even unnecessary thoughts. Anything I don't need or don't need to be doing, is what I want my week ahead to be about. I started by ordering fish food for my betta from Amazon, versus running to the pet store for a simple item. I love Amazon.

Making intentions, even if it works out to only an 80% success rate, is better than not having intentions in place at all. Intent gives me direction and better focus.

Happy U week!

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time flies

t is for time

Time Flies

I am now on summer break and as much as I look forward to summers off as a teacher, I'm also aware of how fast time goes by. So far my summer has been very balanced, with just the right amount of fun and work.

As a single mom, I'm always behind. Dishes, laundry, household stuff mostly. To begin the catch-up, I dive in. I've already made a few trips to drop off "clutter" for donations and consignment. I've filled up the trash can and recycling bins with even more clutter. My pantry and refrigerator, as well as my family room have been cleaned up and out.

My intent this week, and hopefully throughout the summer, will be to keep an eye on time. It passes so quickly and if i'm not careful, I will get the mindset of, "there's plenty of time to do that LATER."

Here is to a summer of doing it now and having the mind frame to make sure I do enough of everything and on time. And to let the procrastination bug come alive only on Sunday's.

Your intent word can begin with the letter "t" also, or you can use any word that will work for your week ahead that will give you the grounding you need to have better focus and enjoyment.

Happy week of intent!

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ABC Blogs Slow down

“S” is for slow down

A busy time is the time to slow down

This week I am going to slow down. My daughter and I were counting how many days straight she has had dance. 13 days in a row. This was during testing and exams at school as well. The past two days were her recitals, which made a momma (me) so proud. I help backstage for one of the shows. I witness the dancers excitement, dilemma's, quick-fixes, quick-changes and relief. Then I watch one of the shows the next day and sit back and know what hard work has gone into the recital over the last few months. There are so many people involved in making it happen; teachers, dancers, staff and volunteers. It's a beautiful program and the girls come out of it so proud and happy to have been involved, and excited for the next one near the holidays.

Schedule down time during busier weeks

Needless to say, we've been on the go constantly. I want nothing more than to slow down. And with the end of the school year nearing, there are still so many activities ahead. We looked back today and said, "we did it!" There's so many things that didn't get done, mainly household duties, but we can say we did all the things that needed to get done.

Even though busy times still lay ahead, we are going to slow down intentionally. We need the rest and rejuvenation. This week we are looking to slow down, all the way through Mother's Day.

If you want to focus your intent to slow down, include activities in your day that help you do that, whether it be walks, yoga, the gym or even knitting or drawing. Find a place and a time to make sure your day and your mind both slow down.

Here's to blessings of busy-ness, but also the blessing of knowing when to slow down.

Enjoy your week. xo

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being quiet is instrumental during stressful days and weeks.

q is for quiet

q is for quiet. if you read my post last week, you know that my daughter has dance six days a week right now (to prepare for her recital). that means we're in the car a lot after school is out. it means a quick dinner somewhere and homework squeezed in between school, dance and bed.

quiet the busy

quiet is time needed to rejuvenate, even if we do it together. nearby one another while she does her homework while i'm in the kitchen. sometimes we'll lay quietly next to each other watching TV. i'll take quiet walks that will most likely involve louder music. lol. but pressing for quiet moments among the busier, hectic days will help us get through them in sync, ready to take them on.

q is a hard one, but making sure that we experience thought-inducing moments together during those stressful days and weeks is important in reaching the other side of the week in tact. it means being more simplistic and calm. i can feel it already. 🙂

xo

my previous abc blog letter q was for quiet your mind, and it is one of my most favorite blogs. it's perfect reading to go along with this current blog. enjoy it here.

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open-minded

o is for open-minded

o is for open-minded. for me that means trying not to answer or respond to my daughter without first taking some time to reflect on what i'm going to say. being open-minded to a new way of answering and her way of thinking. i get in this sing-song rhythm of answering or responding sometimes. especially when i'm tired or in a rush. open-minded means listening and then thinking, and THEN responding.

open-minded conversations

i have an ex that i talk to on the phone on occasion. we rarely become angry with one another (anymore...lol), but it's easy to fall into that quick reaction in a conversation with him. the old ways don't work anymore. mostly because we're not married anymore. now i try to remind myself that i'm talking to an acquaintance, and how would i respond to them? there's still so much personal stuff attached to an ex, especially when you have kids together, but there's no reason you can't be civil, and adult-like with each other. 🙂

open-minded means slowing down and listening, thinking and saying something else that's not always at hand. instead of saying the first thing that comes to mind (a.k.a., the easiest thing), there's gotta' be something better. finding it and using it leads to a new direction of thinking.

o can be many things, so be open-minded. you'll think of something. 🙂

xo

my previous 2016 abc blog on o is for optimum. i like it. it's a good reminder. find it here.  here is an excerpt: "How much do you do in your life that you can label as "optimum?" I've been thinking about it for awhile and my answer would be nothing. When I eat, it's not optimum to my health every single time. When I exercise, I could do much better. When I clean? lol."  continue reading here!

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eat healthy to live healthy

n is for nutrition

i've been doing something totally unlike me for the sake of nutrition. i've been bringing a snack to work lately. that's not unusual but what's unusual for me is that it's a container of fresh, raw vegetables. i eat them straight out of the container and when i do it i feel like a barn animal because who does that?! but i'm finding ways to sneak in healthier snacks (in between the not so healthy snacks). to not lose interest in nutrition, it has to be vegetables that i like. but now i'm finding i need to change it up on occasion to prevent boredom of the same ones.

vegetables over fruit

i like vegetables more than fruit so it's an easy choice. i think i'd eat more fruit if i didn't like chocolate so much. i think my sweet tooth is OVER satisfied so when someone says fruit, i might say, nah, too sweet.

vegetables are bland when you aren't seasoning and cooking them but it's not end of all awful. if i think of them as healthy for my insides, it's no big deal to eat a container full.

i've been eating radishes, carrots, celery, broccoli and cauliflower raw. there isn't much flavor but when you talk about health, flavor isn't as important, as long as it doesn't taste bad (you know, like brussel sprouts). unless of course, you like brussel sprouts.

intentions for the week: find ways to eat nutritious foods, and in the highest context. a.k.a. minus the seasonings and fats. THEN i can have my french fries. 🙂

xo

My previous ABC blog was n for nurture. it was a longer blog but a reminder of how important nurturing is to our physical selves. find it here.

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m is for music

m is for music

music is such a part of my life. i think it began when i was very young. my dad would play his hifi stereo music loud late at night after my sisters and i went to bed.

i was in an upstairs bedroom and the music would travel through the house up through the floors and in through my bones as i slept. so many years later, i can remember the songs. music was such a part of my young life because of his love for it. it lulled me to sleep so many nights in that muffled, heavy bass kind of way.

motivation

sometimes  i find myself sluggish when it comes to getting something done around the house. i stop what i'm doing to plug myself into my music, and off i go.

so "m" is music for me in a big way. it motivates me, inspires me and entertains me. the Ipod so many years ago to me was the best invention EVER. now i can carry thousands of songs with me in my phone everywhere i go, especially on my walks.

so for "m," i will remind myself to plug in when i feel like sitting down for the day. i can then push myself a little bit longer to get a further along on my tasks at hand.

i hope you have been making your weekly intention habitual and that it has moved you forward in the way you'd like it to. i keep many of these in the back of my mind daily. i can pick and choose what works best for the day. i'm not doing all of them at once, (A - M)  but i definitely have choices of daily intentions to pick from. good luck with yours!

xo

my 2016 post for m was making memories last. i enjoyed creating this blog since it is about journaling and i love to journal! find the blog here.

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